darkness

The Space in-between

The space in-between is a place I know well.

Not really knowing what you want to do or even what you stand for.  Asking questions like "What is my soul purpose? " or "How can I use my unique gifts?" You journal, meditate, manifest and yet there is nothing. You feel unsatisfied, maybe even disillusioned that you are not living the life you crave. A few hours scrolling social media just makes you feel more inadequate. You desire change and something new but you are scared to make rash decisions when you have no idea what it is you are actually chasing.

I have been in this space many time. It can take weeks, months and years to shift out of the unknown. If you are proactive, driven and ambitious like me, this can be torture.

What I have come to learn is that this mysterious place is meaningful. This space is important and this space is where beautiful ideas are born.

Releasing the struggle around being in this space can support you in creating the shifts you desire. Accepting the not knowing, embracing the mystery and unravelling in the layers of uncertainty have been transformative for me.

From this comes relief.

How beautifully freeing is that?

So my gentle words to you are...

Lean into the mystery 

Ask the mystery what it is it wants you to know 

Celebrate the unknown 

Trust the answers will come when you are ready

For without the dark, there is no light. 

 

 

 

What I have come to learn is that this mysterious place is meaningful. This space is important and this space is where beautiful ideas are born.
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Loving the darkness

From an early age we are taught to be happy. If we shed tears we are told " cheer up, it's not that bad" . These thoughts are not ill intentioned however I wonder sometimes if this constant encouragement to feel good all the time is setting us up to fail. We seldom here of the benefits of sitting in the darkness. It is my opinion that nurturing these feelings is essential to being able to transmute them . You see, when we suppress our emotions they can get lodged inside of us. Often this suppressed emotion can reappear in our lives at a later state through burn out, exhaustion or illness. How different would it be if we were encouraging each other to just sit with it all. Sit without expectation, without guilt, without the need to feel better or to get on with things. Maybe, just maybe this would allow our body to process the emotion then and there. The emotion would be free to move through us in a healthy way. 

This understanding is key to my own coaching practice. Supporting women to embrace the dark in a safe and supportive container is one of many pathways to greater emotional health. 

Of course if you find yourself in complete overwhelm , unable to move through the darkness it is equally important to seek professional support and guidance. Working through these feelings on your own can be difficult and It is so important to enlist your own support team. 

 

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You see, when we suppress our emotions they can get lodged inside of us. Often this suppressed emotion can reappear in out lives at a later state through burn out, exhaustion or illness.