From an early age we are taught to be happy. If we shed tears we are told " cheer up, it's not that bad" . These thoughts are not ill intentioned however I wonder sometimes if this constant encouragement to feel good all the time is setting us up to fail. We seldom here of the benefits of sitting in the darkness. It is my opinion that nurturing these feelings is essential to being able to transmute them . You see, when we suppress our emotions they can get lodged inside of us. Often this suppressed emotion can reappear in our lives at a later state through burn out, exhaustion or illness. How different would it be if we were encouraging each other to just sit with it all. Sit without expectation, without guilt, without the need to feel better or to get on with things. Maybe, just maybe this would allow our body to process the emotion then and there. The emotion would be free to move through us in a healthy way.
This understanding is key to my own coaching practice. Supporting women to embrace the dark in a safe and supportive container is one of many pathways to greater emotional health.
Of course if you find yourself in complete overwhelm , unable to move through the darkness it is equally important to seek professional support and guidance. Working through these feelings on your own can be difficult and It is so important to enlist your own support team.